Single Mom on Valentine’s Day? Here’s How I Make It Great Anyway

Valentine’s Day can feel like a lot when you’re a single mom.

Whether you’re newly single, happily unattached, or just over the whole concept, February 14th doesn’t have to be about couples’ dinners and overpriced flowers.

In fact, I’ve found plenty of ways to celebrate that have nothing to do with romance—and everything to do with making the day enjoyable on my own terms.

1. Celebrating the Love I Already Have

Instead of focusing on what’s missing, I think about the love that surrounds me.

My kid, my friends, my dog who thinks I’m the greatest human alive—all of these relationships deserve appreciation. 

2. Treating Myself (Because I Deserve It)

I do everything for everyone else—so why not take this day to do something just for me?

I already buy myself flowers regularly, so today I go all out.

I stop by my favorite local yarn store to enjoy some squishy yarn, even if this knitter doesn’t need it, simply because it brings me joy.

I don’t need a date to justify self-care; I deserve to treat myself.

3. Hosting a ‘Galentine’s’ (Or Mom-entine’s) Get-Together

If you have other single mom friends, why not make it a night for celebrating each other? A simple potluck, wine night, or takeout feast with friends can turn the day into something fun and low-pressure.

Bonus: No awkward small talk or splitting the check.

4. Indulging in a Guilty Pleasure

You know that show I’ve been meaning to binge?

The one with zero educational value but endless entertainment?

Or that book that’s been sitting on my nightstand?

Tonight’s the perfect excuse to pour a glass of something delicious, put on my cozy pajamas, and just enjoy myself.

5. Doing Something Productive (Or Not—Both Are Valid Choices)

If I’m feeling motivated, I tackle a project I’ve been putting off.

I declutter a closet, update my budget, or work on a personal goal.

But if I’m exhausted (and let’s be honest, I probably am), I give myself permission to do absolutely nothing.

Rest is productive, too.

6. Having a Mini Glow-Up Just for Me

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about looking good for someone else—sometimes, it’s just about feeling good for myself.

I take a long shower, do a face mask, paint my nails, or wear my favorite outfit, even if I’m just staying in.

Feeling put together (or at least comfortable) boosts my mood more than I expect.

7. Planning Something to Look Forward To

If today feels lonely or frustrating, I shift my focus to something exciting in the future.

I book a trip, plan a fun weekend activity, or set a new goal. Valentine’s Day is just one day, but giving myself something to anticipate makes a big difference in my mindset.

8. Reframing the Narrative

Instead of thinking of Valentine’s Day as a reminder of what I don’t have, I see it as a chance to focus on what actually makes me happy.

Romance is nice, sure, but so is having a quiet house after everyone is asleep, doing what I want without having to compromise, and knowing I’m building a life that’s mine alone.

Being a single mom on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean feeling left out—it means creating a day that’s exactly what I want it to be.

Whether that’s treating myself, celebrating with my kid or my besties, or just ignoring the holiday altogether, the most important thing is doing what feels right for me.